Saturday Night Supper Club

If you have lost someone you love and want some companionship on a Saturday evening, join us virtually for a monthly “Saturday Night Supper Club.” We will meet via Zoom from 6-8pm, share a meal, catch up on life, and keep each other company. This unique meeting is a therapeutic social event with a support group element, facilitated by yours truly!

After years of working with grieving people, the challenge of facing Saturday night alone has been a recurring concern. This program will provide support, entertainment and something to look forward to. An experiential grief support program, Saturday Night Supper Club is like nothing you’ve tried before.

First meeting will be February 19, 2022!

2022 Saturdays:   6-8pm,   February 19        March 12          April 9         May 14       June 11 (No July or August)      September 17    October 8            November 12         December 10

Fees and Registration: FREE

          To register, contact Angela Dora Dobrzynski, LPC, CGCS

          484.306.3356 or angeladoralpc@outlook.com

Sad for the Departed

While grief so often means missing someone and feeling sad in their absence, our sadness for the departed can catch us off guard, like a swift kick in the gut. Milestones for the living can highlight this sadness. Graduations, new babies, rites of passage- they can all trigger feelings of injustice and sorrow on behalf of our missing loved ones.

“He should be here for this, and he was robbed of that chance.”

“She shouldn’t be missing this.”

“They always wanted to see this moment and they can’t.”

“She was taken too young.”

“He must have felt so scared.”

Our love for the departed means an inherent empathy, but without their physical presence to console, we feel helpless. There is no comforting the dead. We are left to wrestle with their presumed grief over their own demise.

I don’t think our human limitations allow us to fully understand what happens after death, and varied faith systems (or lack thereof) greatly influence what we comprehend about that. Generally, people fall into two schools of thought:

  1. Life ends when the body dies and my loved one no longer exists in any form
  2. Life changes when the body dies and my loved one exists in another form

In both cases, we may find some comfort.

If life ends when the body dies and your loved one no longer exists, then the grief over their absence is yours alone; they do not feel “robbed” because they do not know what they are missing. They lived their human life, experienced their Earthly existence, and hopefully derived some love, connection, and joy while here. They completed that experience when their body expired and can have no longings or wanting for what is now.

If life changes when the body dies and your loved one exists in another form, then by all accounts they are not feeling any sorrow or longing at all. Thousands of stories of near-death experiences and “communication” from departed souls provide all the comfort we need. The afterlife, they say, is bliss. The soul’s next realm is love and light, an experience far beyond our human comprehension but one that supersedes human feelings. There is no bitterness there, and no sense of injustice.

The thoughts that trigger sadness on behalf of your loved one aren’t apt to go away easily, but they needn’t have the emotional impact they have had for you in the past. Grief is for the living; seek all the support you need, and allow the dead to rest in peace.

Recommended reading:

Imagine Heaven by John Burke

The Light Between Us by Laura Lynne Jackson

The Afterlife of Billy Fingers by Annie Kagan

Welcome

Photo by Skyler Ewing on Pexels.com

Hello! I’m Angela Dora Dobrzynski, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Pennsylvania. I am a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist and Holistic Health Coach. You’ve come here to decide whether counseling with me is right for you. Read below for some things to consider and scroll further down on this page for recent blog posts. I look forward to meeting you!

Why Grief Counseling?

Grief is a universal experience; but your grief is unique to you. How you grieve and how you cope with grief is based on your circumstances and resources, the nature of your loss, contextual factors, and myriad influences you may never have considered prior to this loss.

As a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist, I have supported hundreds of people through varied experiences of loss and grief, including non-death losses and significant life transitions. I can help you find words to describe your experience, normalize the common reactions of grief, provide direction if you need further interventions, and be a listening ear when no one else seems able to handle your pain.

In addition to having a non-biased, caring person to hear you, counseling can help you alter your life in many ways. With counseling, you can:

*Learn habits that keep you happier

*Practice skills to help you meet your goals

*Implement strategies to cope when things are really hard

*Connect the dots in your life to show where your responses come from, and how to adapt them to live life how you really want to

*Have emotional support and understanding

Why Angela?

There are so many factors to consider when selecting a counselor. Education, experience and expertise are important (see the About page to read about mine), but chemistry and “fit” can go further. Ultimately you want to feel connected, understood and heard, and you want to have trust in my commitment to helping you reach your personal goals.

See below for testimonials from clients that have worked with me:

“I have been to ten different counselors in my lifetime, and you’re the first one that has ever helped me. And in just a few sessions!”

“I left your office feeling better, inspired, more at peace. You’re a very perceptive and compassionate counselor.”

“I found our sessions to be very helpful, and I have been impressed with your professionalism and your empathy. You were most helpful in my time of need.”

“You have been a tremendous help and support for me. Other than being compassionate, you are very perceptive, very reassuring, very problem solving oriented. I’m still struggling, but I’m always comforted and feel better after I meet with you.”

“I absolutely made a great choice in asking you for help. You help me think through the issues with good questions and lots of empathy. Thanks for a wonderful hour.”

“This has been just so helpful. You are really good at what you do. Seriously. You help me put words to things I could never articulate before and it feels so good.”

“Thank you so much for all you’ve done for me. You were like my guide through grief. I will always be grateful to you, truly.”