A Note of Hope for the Single Folks

This personal tale is meant to instill audacious hope in those of you longing for a partner. Over the years in my most pleading prayers, I’d ask for a partner. But, careful not to be greedy or ungrateful, these prayers were modest and meek. “If I could just meet a *decent* guy. He doesn’t haveContinue reading “A Note of Hope for the Single Folks”

The Freedom of Community

In community, we share the burden of life. We share joys and we share trials. When we are committed to others outside of ourselves and our nuclear families, life becomes more complex, but enriched. At times you may feel burdened by your community. You wanted to go to the pool today, but a close friendContinue reading “The Freedom of Community”

“I Regret Nothing”

“Live life with no regrets.” “Regret is a form of punishment itself.” “In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.” “No regrets in life, just lessons learned.” “Appreciate everything, regret nothing.” “Regret” has become a dirty word in our culture, or at least in my generation. To look back and regret poorContinue reading ““I Regret Nothing””

“Don’t Send Me Flowers When I’m Dead”: The Gift of a Living Eulogy

In 2003, when I was 23 years old and my Nana was 79, I wrote a humorous piece about her that I titled, “Nana Banana.” Half-ode, half-roast, it served as a living eulogy to honor one of the women who raised me. Nan talked about death a lot. It was alarming to me as aContinue reading ““Don’t Send Me Flowers When I’m Dead”: The Gift of a Living Eulogy”

Secrecy Vs Privacy

Secrets make you sick. In therapy, we know that holding secrets can cause profound distress, emotionally and physically. Repressed memories, suppressed shame, and ignored guilt can all weigh on us until the stress comes out sideways. Irritability, cognitive malfunction, somatic complaints and other side effects can erupt from keeping secrets. We all benefit when weContinue reading “Secrecy Vs Privacy”

Why Nature Should Be Part of Your Plan

“Try to get out for a walk today.” “See if you can get a few minutes of sunshine on your break.” “Sit by pond for a bit after work.” These are the sort of gentle suggestions I give my therapy clients as one part of their treatment plan. They are not formal assignments or mandates,Continue reading “Why Nature Should Be Part of Your Plan”