Grief Brain

An unexpected part of grief is the experience of “grief brain.” Because of the intensity of emotion and mental load that grief requires, cognitive function can decline temporarily. Grieving people may forget things often, lose words when speaking, repeat themselves unknowingly, blank on someone’s name, or feel unable to plan. This phenomenon is so common,Continue reading “Grief Brain”

“Anxiety” and “Stress”

Recently I worked with a client who wanted help with her anxiety. She worked full time, was in school, had a family and had significant crises to contend with. She had a history of anxiety and panic attacks, so wanted support as soon as possible. After hearing an overview from her I said, “You haveContinue reading ““Anxiety” and “Stress””

Staying Afloat in Grief- A Very Personal Story

“I just almost called mom to tell her my mom is dying.” My stunned face and dropped jaw drove the point home to my sister as I walked away from our mom’s living room hospital bed to get a little fresh air. Mom was a fixture in our lives. She was the default co-parent toContinue reading “Staying Afloat in Grief- A Very Personal Story”

The Grief of a Breakup

To recognize the intense grief that a breakup can trigger, we can look at some of the things that may be lost when a marriage or relationship ends: A companion A housemate Help Sex In-laws Friends of theirs Social experiences A confidante Daily routines Traditions An ally Touch Inside jokes Financial support Your imagined futureContinue reading “The Grief of a Breakup”

Boundaries as Gates

I’m noticing a trend of concern when it comes to the concept of boundaries. It seems that the word “boundary” is being misunderstood as being synonymous with the word “rule,” and I worry that in many cases this misunderstanding leads to disconnection and alienation in relationships. In the literal sense, boundary means the designation ofContinue reading “Boundaries as Gates”


When working with clients, particularly those grieving, they often pause and stumble while trying to describe a certain feeling that they can’t put words to. “Unmoored?” I ask. “YES! Exactly!” they say. Unmoored. It means adrift. Uncertain. Floundering, Insecure. Un-secured. It is how we feel when we have let go of the swinging vine beforeContinue reading ““Unmoored””

Therapeutic Writing

If you don’t like to write, consider reading this through anyway! It has helped so many “non-writers” and it may help you too.                 My regular clients will tell you that I encourage writing in many forms as part of our counseling process. While I specialize in grief, I also work with clients who haveContinue reading “Therapeutic Writing”

Grief for the Failing Body

“Time and health are two precious assets that we don’t recognize and appreciate until they have been depleted.” -Dr. Denis Waitley, author and speaker                 *Your doctor tells you that your best hope is a colostomy                 or                 *The fingers on your right hand have been going numb- and now they don’t work                Continue reading “Grief for the Failing Body”

Unexpected Comforts

At times, the intensity of grief leaves us feeling like nothing could bring relief. Our sorrow is too deep, our despair too consuming. Yet somehow, we find unexpected comforts in the throes of our grief, and these become tiny lifelines that keep us from drowning. If you have not yet experienced any such comforts, pleaseContinue reading “Unexpected Comforts”

Saturday Night Supper Club

If you have lost someone you love and want some companionship on a Saturday evening, join us virtually for a monthly “Saturday Night Supper Club.” We will meet via Zoom from 6-8pm, share a meal, catch up on life, and keep each other company. This unique meeting is a therapeutic social event with a supportContinue reading “Saturday Night Supper Club”