“If there’s anything you need”/ How to Help a Hurting Person

Last week’s blog was on the common experience of not wanting to be too “needy.” This fear often keeps people from seeking or accepting support in their time of need. When working with people who have lost a loved one- or even people who are just going through a rough patch in life- I hearContinue reading ““If there’s anything you need”/ How to Help a Hurting Person”

“I’m Doing Okay” (but I’m not)

One of the most dreaded questions for people who are grieving is, “How are you doing?” Where does one even begin to answer that question after a loss? There seems to be a perception that if we are not puddles in a heap on the floor, soaking in a pool of our own tears, weContinue reading ““I’m Doing Okay” (but I’m not)”

Grief Brain

An unexpected part of grief is the experience of “grief brain.” Because of the intensity of emotion and mental load that grief requires, cognitive function can decline temporarily. Grieving people may forget things often, lose words when speaking, repeat themselves unknowingly, blank on someone’s name, or feel unable to plan. This phenomenon is so common,Continue reading “Grief Brain”

Unexpected Comforts

At times, the intensity of grief leaves us feeling like nothing could bring relief. Our sorrow is too deep, our despair too consuming. Yet somehow, we find unexpected comforts in the throes of our grief, and these become tiny lifelines that keep us from drowning. If you have not yet experienced any such comforts, pleaseContinue reading “Unexpected Comforts”

Saturday Night Supper Club

If you have lost someone you love and want some companionship on a Saturday evening, join us virtually for a monthly “Saturday Night Supper Club.” We will meet via Zoom from 6-8pm, share a meal, catch up on life, and keep each other company. This unique meeting is a therapeutic social event with a supportContinue reading “Saturday Night Supper Club”

Sad for the Departed

While grief so often means missing someone and feeling sad in their absence, our sadness for the departed can catch us off guard, like a swift kick in the gut. Milestones for the living can highlight this sadness. Graduations, new babies, rites of passage- they can all trigger feelings of injustice and sorrow on behalfContinue reading “Sad for the Departed”